A tricky question.

Carlos McKnight, 17, of Washington, left, and Katherine Nicole Struck, 25, of Frederick, Md., hold flags in support of gay marriage outside of the Supreme Court in Washington, Friday June 26, 2015. A major opinion on gay marriage is among the remaining to be released before the term ends at the end of June. (AP Photo/Jacquelyn Martin)

Looking at social media I’m seeing so many radically opposing posts regarding to new US ruling on homosexual marriage (a very hot topic I’ve avoided so far!)

Reading through I can see both have good points. This caused me to ponder my own views which were a bit ambiguous. To my surprise I did come to a conclusion and one I’ve yet to see stated.

The thing that clarified things was picturing a homosexual couple and a right wing conservative Christian condemning them (understanding that aside from media paintbrushes most folks are somewhere in between on these issues).

I believe love between two men can be a holy and wonderful thing (take David and Johnathon for example where Johnathon loved David so much he was willing to give up his claim to the kingdom). The sexual act of homosexuality however is a far different matter and the two shouldn’t be confused. I think many supporters tend to focus on the love rather than the act itself which is (Christian principals apart) unnatural and therefore a perversion of nature (think over the nitty gritty details and you’ll see what I mean).

However that is not my main conclusion. To my mind as a Christian it is a sin, but so are a lot of other things done on a daily basis. There are no laws against several other things the Bible considers sin, greed, envy, lying, disrespect, even blasphemy so I have no problem with the new law, we enjoy freedom of religion even moral freedom to some degree (where it doesn’t harm others). Not only the state but God Himself gives us the freedom to choose.

It would not be my choice (I’m definitely a nature girl!) but to my mind it’s less hurtful than some of those other legal sins. Far more to be condemned are the folks behind the corporate giants who extort fresh water from 3rd. world communities, poison our food with additive ingredients, destroy and pollute the environment, and enslave poor workers in unsafe environments – greed is far more destructive than homosexuality! Then there are the power hungry politicians who start wars or oppression (again for greed) whipping out civilian populations, ethnic cleaning and child soldiers etc. My list could go on.

Then there’s the sin that tops my list and brought about the Devil’s fall and Jesus’ pain and crucifixion – self-righteous pride. I remember Jesus’ admonition, “let him that is without sin cast the first stone.”

Silence is Golden.



There is a quote that even a fool is esteemed wise if he doesn’t open his mouth. Then there’s “empty vessels make the most noise”.

It’s been a life long lesson for me when to speak and when to remain silent. Always outspoken from the first (I was raised by a Yorkshire man!) I once took pride in not been afraid to “call a spade a spade”.

I’m still very far from politically correct, but I have learnt some wisdom. Learnt that folks are more receptive to “the truth” at some times than others, learnt if you drag the horse kicking and screaming to the river it’s unlikely to oblige by drinking the water.I also learnt – horror of horrors!- that I may be mistaken about things!

There is a time to speak and a time to be silent but boy it’s hard sometimes to know the difference! To keep silent when you should speak up is to be a moral coward, but sometimes it’s not the right time and would only make matters worse.

Part of my compass is to check my pride regulator. If it’s high maybe wait a while. I’ve learnt also to stop and pray (I’m not so wise on my own) and even the pause helps. I recall the phrase “the tongue is like a fire” so I try hard to think before striking matches. I don’t always succeed though.