The “ministry of truth” is at it again.

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The “ministry of truth” is at it again. I went to see “Churchill” last night expecting an exciting and invigorating movie. I’ve read some of his memoirs and he led an incredible life quite apart from his role as prime minister in world war II.
This movie was awful though and seemed to me blatant lies for the most part. I came home and double checked and sure enough the whole premise of him opposing the D day landings was totally untrue, as was the depiction of his character as a petulant relic getting in everyone’s way (I believe it to be true that he had a drinking problem – who wouldn’t with the weight of responsibility he carried).
It seems some like to pull down the representation of great men and this isn’t the first attempt at Churchill. For sure he was no saint, but he was far from the feeble, petulant old man portrayed by this movie. The problem is the younger generation (unless history nerds like me) may well swallow this interpretation grrrrr – OK rant ended!

I’m impressed!

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I haven’t been to the cinema in years but my curiosity to see this one enticed me to make the effort (I much prefer to watch movies at home). I’m so glad I did. I have to give this one 5 stars (despite the  expected groans of the critics).

Why?

  1. It lacked the weaknesses and “churchy” atmosphere often plaguing Christian movies. (There are so many great stories in the Bible that could enrich our diet. I think Christian directors do a great job on a limited budget, but these stories could be so much more.).
  2. It had a great plot and for the most part was well acted.
  3. It was historically accurate as regards, costume, sets etc. quite a convincing portrayal of Roman Palestine, dirt, mess, warts and all.
  4. Jesus was not portrayed as handsome or outstanding, but with a wonderful smile and sparkling eyes that lit up during conversation – perfect casting and acting.
  5. The disciples also looked and acted like very ordinary.characters, confused, excited, human.
  6. I could identify very much with the tribune and his doubts, my mind worked in a similar way.
  7. Jesus is portrayed as very personal in his interactions, the miracles only a backdrop to his love for each one.
  8. I’m very picky about movies, and hate the same old predictable plots etc. but this one I believe stands on its own as a mind provoking  quality film even for non Christian  audiences, good viewing for Easter!

50 shades of abuse? (Copy paste from face book)

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A Psychiatrist’s Letter to Young People about Fifty Shades of Grey

fiftyshadesArticle taken from Miriam Grossman MD
February 11, 2015

There’s nothing gray about Fifty Shades of Grey. It’s all black.

Let me explain.

I help people who are broken inside. Unlike doctors who use x-rays or blood tests to determine why someone’s in pain, the wounds that interest me are hidden. I ask questions, and listen carefully to the answers. That’s how I discover why the person in front of me is “bleeding”.

Years of careful listening have taught me a lot. One thing I’ve learned is that young people are utterly confused about love – finding it and keeping it. They make poor choices, and end up in lots of pain.

I don’t want you to suffer like the people I see in my office, so I’m warning you about a new movie called Fifty Shades of Grey. Even if you don’t see the film, its toxic message is seeping into our culture, and could plant dangerous ideas in your head.

Fifty Shades of Grey is being released for Valentine’s Day, so you’ll think it’s a romance, but don’t fall for it. The movie is actually about a sick, dangerous relationship filled with physical and emotional abuse. It seems glamorous, because the actors are gorgeous, have expensive cars and planes, and Beyonce is singing. You might conclude that Christian and Ana are cool, and that their relationship is acceptable.

Don’t allow yourself to be manipulated! The people behind the movie just want your money; they have no concern whatsoever about you and your dreams.

Abuse is not glamorous or cool.  It is never OK, under any circumstances.

This is what you need to know about Fifty Shades of Grey: as a child, Christian Grey was terribly neglected. He is confused about love because he never experienced the real thing. In his mind, love is tangled up with bad feelings like pain and embarrassment.  Christian enjoys hurting women in bizarre ways. Anastasia is an immature girl who falls for Christian’s looks and wealth, and foolishly goes along with his desires.

In the real world, this story would end badly, with Christian in jail, and Ana in a shelter – or morgue. Or Christian would continue beating Ana, and she’d stay and suffer. Either way, their lives would most definitely not be a fairy tale. Trust me on this one.

As a doctor, I’m urging you: DON’T see Fifty Shades of Grey. Get informed, learn the facts, and explain to your friends why they shouldn’t see it either.

Here are a few of the dangerous ideas promoted by Fifty Shades of Grey:

1. Girls want guys like Christian who order them around and get rough.

No! A psychologically healthy woman avoids pain. She wants to feel safe, respected and cared for by a man she can trust. She dreams about wedding gowns, not handcuffs.

2. Guys want a girl like Anastasia who is meek and insecure.

Wrong. A psychologically healthy man wants a woman who can stand up for herself.  If he is out of line, he wants her to set him straight.

3. Anastasia exercises free choice when she consents to being hurt, so no one can judge her decision.

Flawed logic. Sure, Anastasia had free choice – and she chose poorly. A self-destructive decision is a bad decision.

4. Anastasia makes choices about Christian in a thoughtful and detached manner.

Doubtful. Christian constantly supplies Anastasia with alcohol, impairing her judgment.  Also, Anastasia becomes sexually active with Christian – her first experience ever – soon after meeting him. Neuroscience suggests their intimacy could jump start her feelings of attachment and trust, before she’s certain he deserved them.  Sex is a powerful experience – particularly the first time.
Finally, Christian manipulates Anastasia into signing an agreement prohibiting her from telling anyone that he is a long time abuser.

Alcohol, sex, manipulation – hardly the ingredients of a thoughtful, detached decision.

5.   Christian’s emotional problems are cured by Anastasia’s love.

Only in a movie. In the real world, Christian wouldn’t change to any significant degree. If Anastasia was fulfilled by helping emotionally disturbed people, she should have become a psychiatrist or social worker.

6. It’s good to experiment with sexuality.

Maybe for adults in a healthy, long term, committed, monogomous relationship, AKA “marriage”.  Otherwise, you’re at high risk for STDs, pregnancy, and sexual assault. It’s wise to be very careful who you allow to get close to you, physically and emotionally, because just one encounter can throw you off track and change your life forever.

The bottom line: the ideas of Fifty Shades of Grey  are dangerous, and can lead to confusion and poor decisions about love. There are vast differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, but the movie blurs those differences, so you begin to wonder: what’s healthy in a relationship? What’s sick? There are so many shades of grey…I’m not sure.

Listen, it’s your safety and future we’re talking about here. There’s no room for doubt: an intimate relationship that includes violence, consensual or not, is completely unacceptable.

This is black and white. There are no shades of grey here. Not even one.

drgrossman-aboutMiriam Grossman, MD is a medical doctor with training in pediatrics and in the specialty of child, adolescent, and adult psychiatry. She is also the author of Unprotected and You’re Teaching My Child WHAT?